Codependency


Usually when I think about addiction I think about sex, porn, alcohol, food, drugs, etc. I think about things that come from outside of me. However, watching and studying about codependency I have leaner that codependency can be an addiction, too.  It comes from insight. It is the way how we think about ourselves and others. Yes, it is being created by the external environment. In that sense it is similar to other addictions.  But this one can be only controlled from within. Yes, one can say/write that all addictions are controlled from within. This is true. They all start from the combination of something dysfunctional between the outside world and insight world/experiences.  And, all of them need healthy external and internal boundaries.  So, perhaps addictions are not that different from each other. 


Codependency is a very interesting topic for me.  It is something I might be/am struggling with. 

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